Forgiveness is not really a straight line, however, nor is there a precise method that can bring us from a place
of hurt or anger to a place of forgiveness and peace. It is not like taking an antibiotic for an illness. We don’t
undertake seven days of a regimen and find that we are simply cured. Forgiveness is much more like walking down a winding path, with some difficult areas that are hard to traverse, places where we cannot see what is ahead of the next turn, and then some delightful moments where the path levels out and suddenly the way is easier.
When we walk the path closer to forgiveness, we might find that there are times when we have to stop
to rest and take a break. Sometimes the road has a fork in it, and we have to choose which way to take,
hoping that this path does not have a dead end but brings us to our destination. Sometimes we even have
to retrace our steps to an earlier point on the path because we find that we have forgotten something
back there and it’s too soon to move ahead to the next place. In this way, the journey is more like a meandering dance than a straight line.
What matters, though, is that we are on the path.
Excerpted from The Ignatian Guide to Forgiveness: 10
Steps to Healing by Marina Berzins McCoy